After our first-born, scheduling a date night never posed a problem for Todd and I. We had plenty of holiday parties, weddings, and other celebrations to attend, and we used those as our date nights. Finding a babysitter didn’t prove too difficult either. The neighbors’ teenage daughter started babysitting for us when Amy was only 6 months old. We also recruited our daytime sitter’s two teenage daughters on a regular basis. Then there were date weekends when our girls enjoyed overnights with my dad and Cheryl or my mom. I still remember my dad once asking me if we wanted one or both of the girls to spend one or two nights with him and Cheryl. My instantaneous response was, “Two for two of course!”
As the girls entered elementary school, Todd started working out of town and spending every third weekend at his parents’ home. Family time pushed aside many of our date nights. Additional factors for less date nights included Amy’s special needs and our regular teenage babysitters growing up.
At one point I re-enlisted one of those teenagers-turned-adults to come on Thursday nights after her college class and hang with the girls for an hour or two, but life continued on and date nights became sporadic again.
For my 50-4-50 list, I committed to weekly dates with Todd. Tonight we enjoyed Comedy Night, but I’ve also learned to grab those sporadic moments when both the girls are busy or content to just be alone at home. We no longer need to dress up and head out the door at 6, 7 or 8 pm for dinner and drinks. So far our date “nights” included lunch, an afternoon craft brew, and a 9 am breakfast date.
I guess date night evolution is just a piece of our family’s dynamic path through life.
A few other 50-4-50 updates:
- 50+ outdoor walking miles in January
- Invited friends over for game night last weekend
- Booked my birthday celebration venue
- Blog post #3 of 50